We can’t stop being selfish, it’s our nature. Using the ego for my basic needs is not a problem. It’s a problem that we use the ego for things we don’t need and are even harmful to people and the environment.
If we realize that we all have an ego and if we see that in the meantime we are all dependent on each other, then we can start using our ego for the greater good; I don’t want to receive for myself anymore, but I want to receive for the collective (humanity).
A shift from me to we.
We have everything, but there is nothing left that satisfies us. Still we are playing the game and chasing transient goals, which we envision as pleasures such as money, honor and power. After all, what else is there to do in life?
Filling the emptiness inside
We look at each other and thoughtlessly follow the current trend. We say to ourselves, “If I behave like everyone else, I’ll feel good.” We choose a vague, agreeable goal, and chase it, hoping it will fill the emptiness inside.
OUr hearts will awaken
We must be constantly preoccupied, otherwise the question “What am I living for? What’s happening with my life?” will haunt us. But sooner or later our hearts will awaken and we will not be able to focus on mundane issues anymore.
As long as we close our eyes to avoid truly seeing, we could run along with the crowd. But we have exhausted our strength. While everyone else is still racing, we have dropped out. It simply is no longer appealing anymore; in fact we find it pointless.
A higher goal
Our will has deepened so much, it no longer allows us to settle for mundane goals. This is when we begin the quest for a higher goal.
If a person is immersed in his ego, in his desire to receive, then he certainly cannot be happy, because it will only bring him pain. But if he rises above his ego so as not to worry about what goes on inside him, but to live on a higher level and to identify with the attribute of bestowal, with the world, with everything that surrounds him, he can be happy constantly.
It can be to such an extent that he won’t feel what is happening with his body at all. The body can die, but a person will not feel that he belongs to his body any more.
Identified with the body/ego
Now we totally identify ourselves with our body. But if we can develop so that we will gradually draw further from it, we will eventually stop feeling that we are tied to it at all. It is as if I float above this body, and it is indeed so, because I identify with the attribute of bestowal and I live in it, and this is the key to advancing in happiness.
I can attain this if I am incorporated in the environment and together with others form one general group force that is not egoistic, but that is formed from all our spiritual sparks that are connected above our ego. Our ego loses its value and we raise the sparks and see them as the top priority. As a result we begin to live in these sparks that are connected and create one harmonious group force.
Developing mutual bestowal
Besides, by developing the force of mutual bestowal, which means that we can demand this force of bestowal from the upper force field, we will constantly feel happy. It all depends on how a person aims himself regarding the group, and how the group aims itself regarding the upper force field, regarding the field of bestowal and love.
This is the only factor that determines everything. I have to detach myself from my “self” and to rise to the level of “we”; everything will be accepted happily! It isn’t simple, and there are ascents and descents, but this is how we advance. Each time we receive an additional ego, an additional desire to enjoy, so that we will grow stronger and connect more tightly to the field of bestowal. This is the only way to advance.
If a person identifies with this, he accepts everything that happens on the way happily because he understands that it is a mean for reaching the goal. But if a person thinks only about his stomach—absorbed in himself, unable to rise above himself, then he will certainly walk around with a sour face, will suffer in life, and will always have complaints —it all depends on how a person aims himself.
It is only possible to come into a healthy balance, if you strive for a balance between two forces: egoism and altruism. The force that naturally arises in you is your egoism. However you are given the opportunity to balance this negative force with a positive one, so two opposing forces, called the middle line, emerges in between.
This middle line, which arises in the balance between the right (altruistic) and the left (egoistic) lines, is called human. By having a good command of both egoism and altruism, a person can interact with them correctly, constantly balancing up and down and rising on this balance. The main thing is that he learns to maintain balance. This is spiritual work.