Connection can happen only when all the parties involved want to connect. And if they agree on wanting to connect they must do what needs to be done in order to connect.
Wanting to connect
The first step, wanting to connect, is actually the hardest. It requires reviewing where we are, realizing how disconnected we are. We have to shift from blaming others for our woes to admitting that we are not contributing to mending the situation. If everyone participates in this process, this will already change things for the better. However, it will lead us to a conclusion that we not really want to connect at all and that will make us feel helpless.
Yet, our sense of helplessness is exactly what we need this is the beginning of the next step, to do all what is necessary to connect. The beauty about this process is that at that moment of crisis, when we feel as though we aren’t doing anything to connect nor can we do anything about it, this is all that is required—to want connection to happen and to realize that we cannot make it happen. When all of us, or at least enough of us, want it badly enough, it will happen seemingly by itself; our hearts will open toward each other and a new feeling will come in.
From enemies to lovers
We think that we determine reality through actions, but we actually determine it through our desires. When we want to do others harm, we create a terrible world and when we want to bring others joy, we produce a beautiful world. When we hate but want to love, we change ourselves from enemies to lovers, and the world around us changes with us.