Perception of Reality

Reality is Not What We Perceive 

Everyone has their own unique perception of reality. Reality is filtered through our ego and it is unique and different for everyone. It depends on the genes we have been given, and the environment we have grown up in. The culture, the circumstances, our family, school, work, etc. This also means that reality is therefore different from how we perceive it. You can change reality by changing yourself. This insight alone changes your reality enormously. 

The Ego

Our ego drives us, because the ego is the essence of what we are: a desire to receive. It is through to the ego that we take action, we want something and we go after it to get it. We always want something better than what we have now. This applies to us as individuals as well as to humanity itself. After the desire is fulfilled, a new and greater desire arises and in this way our ego grows. You can also see this development in humanity throughout the ages. 

The Desire Grows  

You may wonder what the purpose of this ever-growing ego is. I can tell you that the ultimate purpose is to become completely fulfilled. We as humanity are at a point in our evolution where we find that more material things will not give us that ultimate fulfilment. We find that it is never enough and that after one desire is fulfilled, another desire arises. We are now approaching a point where we realise that no material thing can ever fill us. It is a time when we need a different kind of desire that will bring about a great change in us.


We begin to ask ourselves what fulfilment really means. Filling ourselves with material things feels increasingly empty. Slowly but surely we discover that giving is more fulfilling than receiving. When we look at nature, we can see that we as humans are different from nature. Nature is abundant and giving, and we are almost exclusively concerned with how to get more for ourselves. Of course we also give to others and we discover more and more that this is much more fulfilling. We come to the second stage in the development of our ego. Instead of only receiving for ourselves, we begin to think about giving back to nature.

We Search for Answers Until the Answer Finds Us.

It is like the awakening of a small point in our heart. Out of all the desire for ourselves, a point of desire for giving arises. This is the beginning of a great change in us. We can only be truly happy when we give to others. This sounds very obvious, but it is much harder than you think, because we are born with a desire to receive. That is our nature, so we have to go against our nature, and the ego is not happy with that. We go through a process of always having to rise above our ego. But like all difficult things, it is worth it!

The Wisdom of Reception

In a nutshell

Two forces; giving and receiving

The wisdom of reception explains that there are two forces, the force of bestowal (love) that created the created being and the force of reception, the opposite, the created being itself. They are like a cup and the filling, feminine and masculine. We, humanity, are the cup, which needs to be filled and this desire makes us do all kinds of things to fill the empty feeling inside. This desire is our engine. The only reason we feel emptiness and darkness in our life is because we are confused and think we can fill it with material things but this filling is always temporary. This cup can only be filled with the light of love because nothing can substitute love itself. 

Overcoming the gap between giving and receiving

So because we are complete opposite to the force of love, we have to overcome the gap between receiving and giving. Because the moment we become love then we are like the force of bestowal, and we will feel whole again. This means that no thing and no other person can fulfill us, only love itself. So only if we can give love, to love others, to love our lives and everything in it, no matter how bad it seems then we can feel whole again. If we can accept the darkness and agree with everything in this world, then and only then, when there is nothing left that I do not love, then the cup is filled. 

Discovering our egoistic nature is key for correcting it 

In speech it is simple but in attainment it is the most difficult thing to do, because we are the will to receive by nature. We have to put all our effort in if we want to succeed. And we will succeed, this is our destiny. But we can accelerate the path towards fulfillment. We can do that by consciously trying to “correct” our egoistic desires into bestowal. By trying we will become aware of us being opposite to love, and that will give us a desire for change. Then we will have the right desire to receive. The desire to change our nature into bestowal and love and that is all we need. 

We don’t have to do it alone

This path will take time because we cannot correct our whole egoism at once, we can only do one bit at a time. Therefore every time, over and over again we will see that we still have some egoism left and we cannot stop improving ourselves yet. But every little bit counts and will become a big desire that eventually will be complete. And most importantly we don’t have to do it alone, we do it together. We cannot correct the whole world by ourselves and we don’t have to. More and more people will become aware that fulfillment doesn’t come from corporeal stuff and that will lead them to the spiritual path. At first from the desire to fulfill themselves and along the way, by understanding more and more, to gain a desire to fulfill others, a desire for bestowal.

The end of correction

Imagine the world we live in when everyone starts wanting to fulfill others. This will inevitably lead to the end of correction, the complete correction and fulfillment of every person and every living being in the world. By keeping this goal in mind, and make it the most important thing in our lives we all will accelerate on the path. 

This World is Just a Replica of the Spiritual World

We have forgotten, or never knew, that this world is only a replica of the spiritual world, we perceive the world as an “imprint” of the spiritual world.

The purpose of life is to be fulfilled and feel good, which can be achieved by becoming equal to the giving power of nature. All that is needed to achieve this is a correction of our heart.

Our heart is entirely made up of desire and tends to want receive for itself. If we correct it to a desire to give to others, we can become truly fulfilled. Because receiving for ourselves will never give fulfillment.

We just cannot immediately correct our heart from the intention to receive for myself to the intention for giving to others. This correction takes place in steps. These steps can again be divided into smaller steps, where we start by “avoiding” harming others.

Not to want to harm others sounds obvious, but if you start working with it you will discover that the ego wants to get things at all costs, even if it harms others or the world. This stubborn ego will try anything to escape this correction.

Now the idea is not to avoid the ego. Rather, it leads us to recognize this, unconscious behavior. Each time a new piece is revealed. By facing how the ego works, we can choose each time to connect more lovingly with others. In that way we correct it step by step.

The Wisdom of the Circle 2

What is a connection circle?

In a connection circle we try to create a connection between us. We want to connect with each other, to be together, and in this context we create a common space. It is a kind of communal space, in which each takes distance from himself (ego). We enter the common desire and within that we can build a system of connection between us.

To the extent that we try to connect more, we will suddenly start to feel the connection between us. There are all kinds of connections there and we start to distinguish the different kinds of connections we have. We discover a system of forces, the more inner life. And then we learn how we are connected with each other and what this network is that binds us together. In this way we begin to discover the spiritual world.

We try to associate all our desires with the spiritual world. For example, if there are great desires behind me, then I transform them more and more in the direction of connecting with everyone. In this way I reach the perfect state. Where everything is connected with each other, myself and the group. And the selfish desires we transform for the connection of all of us. In this way we all achieve that we have nothing left of those selfish desires. Everything is transferred to the connection, and that is called reaching the end of correction. From there we can redesign the world.

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A New Phase for Humanity

We’re slaves to the ego

Now that we’ve been startled by the Coronavirus, life will never be the same again. It will have a major impact on the Netherlands, Europe and the whole world. We have reached a point in our development that we can no longer remain a slave to our growing ego. We are getting ready for a new phase for humanity.

In the picture this growth of the ego is presented as a pyramid where we start at the bottom with a small ego, where the ego is only concerned with staying alive, maintaining itself. To stay alive we need food, shelter, sex to reproduce and family.

A new phase

At a certain point in history this was no longer sufficient and the ego = the will to receive, went in search of new ways to fulfill itself. Mankind developed and began to derive satisfaction from money, honor, control and knowledge.

Now that we face the fact that with our ego we are slowly but surely destroying the world and each other, we can come to repentance, because as long as you are not conscious you cannot change anything. This awakening will cause us to move to the next phase.

Nature is in control

The next phase is the realization that we can no longer follow our will to receive thoughtlessly. Only when we come to a standstill, stand back and make a reversal can we continue to exist as a species.

The illusion that we can control nature is collapsing. We are insignificant compared to nature. This force of nature will do anything to get in balance, without taking into account what my little self wants.

The liberation

We can now begin this reversal. Think together about how we can benefit another instead of ourselves. Because if we do this for each other, we don’t have to think about ourselves anymore. Imagine how carefree you are then! What a liberation not to have to think about myself selfishly anymore.

We discover that thinking about each other brings me further, we are in the same boat together. In addition, caring for others gives much more satisfaction than filling myself and the emptiness I feel with stuff. We are on the eve of this evolutionary leap. That is, if we take this opportunity with both hands.

From Separate Souls to Unity

Only in the harmonious connection of the body parts is a healthy life possible.

Within the correct bonding among people reveals the connection where the upper life is hidden, the feeling of eternity and wholeness.

The impasse we have reached today highlights the need for a transition from the stage where souls are separated by the ego to the stage of unity where we reveal eternal love. 

An Opportunity for Freedom of Choice Arises

We did not really have free will until the 21th century. We developed in a coercive, automated manner, alongside the constant heightening of egoistic drives.

Now that the human ego has culminated, an opportunity for freedom of choice arises. Now we can rise above our egoistic nature, and cease being dependent on it.

If we realize this opportunity, we will rise directly (and least painfully) to another nature, another dimension of reality, another sensation of life-in the entire volume of reality, in eternity and perfection.

Nature’s plan will be executed whether or not we choose the path of conscious transition to the upper dimension, just as it has until today. However, without our participation, it will come alongside the harsh impact of the “press of evolution” upon us.

Emerging into a Reality of Love


People around me want nothing but to hurt me! What do we do when one tries to love and the other does not?

The mutual love that we aspire for is impossible within the ego. I “love” another person because he is good for me, but in fact, I want only to exploit him.

Loving fish

Love within the ego is like loving fish-I love fish because I enjoy them. In the same manner, as long as I enjoy someone I enjoy being with him and I “love” him. But the moment I don’t enjoy being with him, I push him away.

But there is another love, one which we still don’t know. It exists above our selfish considerations, above our nature. When the picture of us being parts of a single, inclusive, and interdependent system is revealed to us, we surrender to its power and the true love of others awakens within us.

A Higher love

And beyond this love there is an even higher love. Beyond mutual dependency, the quality of love itself is drawing us towards it, for we realize that loving and bestowing are the most exalted things in reality.
Love allows us to transcend our regular perception and we begin to sense another reality.

When our natural aspiration to absorb everything within us changes into the aspiration to love and to give, the minute and limited reality we now sense relinquishes its place, and the complete reality appears to us-the spiritual reality.

The nullity of the ego

One who comes to feel the spiritual reality realizes that people mistreat each other because they are naturally controlled by the ego, not because they are evil. He discovers that they were deliberately created that way to eventually attain independent awareness of the nullity of the ego. Only then well they emerge from it into a reality of love.

A Key to Happiness

If a person is immersed in his ego, in his desire to receive, then he certainly cannot be happy, because it will only bring him pain. But if he rises above his ego so as not to worry about what goes on inside him, but to live on a higher level and to identify with the attribute of bestowal, with the world, with everything that surrounds him, he can be happy constantly.

It can be to such an extent that he won’t feel what is happening with his body at all. The body can die, but a person will not feel that he belongs to his body any more.

Identified with the body/ego

Now we totally identify ourselves with our body. But if we can develop so that we will gradually draw further from it, we will eventually stop feeling that we are tied to it at all. It is as if I float above this body, and it is indeed so, because I identify with the attribute of bestowal and I live in it, and this is the key to advancing in happiness.

I can attain this if I am incorporated in the environment and together with others form one general group force that is not egoistic, but that is formed from all our spiritual sparks that are connected above our ego. Our ego loses its value and we raise the sparks and see them as the top priority. As a result we begin to live in these sparks that are connected and create one harmonious group force.

Developing mutual bestowal

Besides, by developing the force of mutual bestowal, which means that we can demand this force of bestowal from the upper force field, we will constantly feel happy. It all depends on how a person aims himself regarding the group, and how the group aims itself regarding the upper force field, regarding the field of bestowal and love.

This is the only factor that determines everything. I have to detach myself from my “self” and to rise to the level of “we”; everything will be accepted happily! It isn’t simple, and there are ascents and descents, but this is how we advance. Each time we receive an additional ego, an additional desire to enjoy, so that we will grow stronger and connect more tightly to the field of bestowal. This is the only way to advance.

If a person identifies with this, he accepts everything that happens on the way happily because he understands that it is a mean for reaching the goal. But if a person thinks only about his stomach—absorbed in himself, unable to rise above himself, then he will certainly walk around with a sour face, will suffer in life, and will always have complaints —it all depends on how a person aims himself.

The Evolution of Desires – Lesson 2, part 1

I am an egoist

The statement that human nature is egoistic is unlikely to make any headlines. But because we are naturally egoistic, we are all, without exception, prone to misusing what we know. This need not mean that we will use knowledge to commit a crime. It can express itself in very small, seemingly trifle things, like getting promoted at work when we didn’t deserve it, or taking our best friend’s loved one away from them. 

The real news about egoism is not that human nature is egoistic; it is that I am an egoist. The first time we confront our own egoism is quite a sobering experience. And like any sobering, it is a giant headache. 

There is good reason why our will to receive constantly evolves, and we will touch upon it in a little while. But for now, let’s focus on the role of this evolution in how we acquire knowledge. 

Evolution creates evolution

When a new desire appears, it creates new needs. And when we search for ways to satisfy these needs, we develop and improve our minds. In other words, it is the evolution of the will to receive pleasure that creates evolution. 

A look at human history from the perspective of the evolution of desires shows how these growing desires generated every concept, discovery, and invention. Each innovation, in fact, has been a tool that helps us satisfy the mounting needs and demands our desires create. 

Different levels of desire

Unlike the first level of desires, all other levels are uniquely human and stem from being in a human society. The second level is the desire for wealth; the third is the desire for honor, fame and domination, and the fourth level is the desire for knowledge. 

Happiness or unhappiness, and pleasure or suffering depend on how much we satisfy our needs. But satisfaction requires effort. Actually, we are so pleasure-driven that, we cannot perform even the slightest movement without motivation without somehow benefiting oneself. Moreover, when, for example, if we move our hand from the chair to the table it is because we think that by putting our hand on the table we will receive greater pleasure. If we didn’t think so, we would leave our hand on the chair for the rest of our life.

Egoism is a Catch-22

In the previous chapter; we said that egoism is a Catch-22. In other words, the intensity of the pleasure depends on the intensity of the desire. As satiation increases, desire proportionally decreases. Therefore, when the desire is gone, so is the pleasure. It turns out that to enjoy something, we must not only want it, but keep wanting it, or the pleasure will fade away. 

Moreover, the pleasure is not in the desired object; it’s in the one who wants the pleasure. For example: If I’m crazy about tuna, it doesn’t mean that the tuna has any pleasure within it, but that a pleasure in the “form” of tuna exists in me


Ask any tuna if it enjoys its own flesh. I doubt it would answer positively. I might tactlessly ask the tuna, “But why aren’t you enjoying it? When I take a bite of you, it tastes so good… And you have tons of tuna! If I were you, I’d be in Heaven.” 

Of course, we all know this is not a realistic dialogue, and not just because tuna don’t speak English. We instinctively feel that tuna fish can’t enjoy their own flesh, while humans can very much enjoy the taste of tuna. 

Desire is a vessel that wants to be filled

Why this human enjoyment of the taste of tuna? Because we have a desire for it. The reason tuna fish can’t enjoy their own flesh is that they have no desire for it. A specific desire to receive pleasure from a specific object could be referred to as a vessel and to the filling of the vessel as pleasure. When you can build a vessel,a you will receive the filling and to stay fulfilled we have to keep growing our desire.